Advice before marriage


  • 1 Marriage
  • 2 tips before marriage
    • 2.1 Tips for men
    • 2.2 Tips for women
  • 3 References


Marriage is the association of two people together, who live in one place, and marriage is defined in a language as the source of the act he is married, and it means the relationship of a man and a woman to a bond and a legal contract according to the principles Other definitions of marriage is a legitimate association between male and female, or a combination of men and women through a religious marriage ceremony or ceremony civilian, [1] in general and marriage is the association two things together so that each pair of another after they were each one individual, known scholars of marriage It is the contract that grants each of the parties the right to enjoy the other in a legitimate manner, and the goal of marriage is to create a good family and a healthy society, and not only enjoy according to certain considerations and depending on the conditions of the spouses. [2]

Marriage is one of the important stages in the life of every human being, whereby the spouses associate with each other in order to achieve harmony, compassion and cooperation between them, just as marital life is the school of new generations, and it contributes to directing young people to community reconstruction and reform, as the father and mother have a major influence on their children, so they are a stone The foundation that builds a good society when they are righteous, which is the main residence for mercy, affection, kindness and full care for the emerging generation, and both spouses must maintain the bond of marriage, so the husband must carry out his duties towards his wife, give her all her rights, and improve her Bad treatment or go bad to her family and her family, and women must perform their duties, giving her rights, and assist him in the midst of life, obey the Promotion of Virtue, good considerate and not to harm him, and must each of them to initiate reform of any defect holds and be patient on the other. [3]

Advice before marriage

The success of marriage depends on harmony and love between the spouses, and this can be achieved through the application of the following advice: [4]
  • Knowing the purpose of marriage: It is the realization that marriage is one of the things that God Almighty has enacted, and it is one of the Sunnah of the prophets and messengers, and a blessing from God’s greatest grace to man; therefore Islam desires it and God Almighty has called for it in his dear book, and that the goal of marriage is not achieving The fun is for both partners only, but getting peace, affection, mercy, having children, and building land.
  • Good choice of spouses for each other: It is advised that every future woman marries that it is better to choose his partner according to legal bases, and it includes choosing the partner according to his religion and his ethics, which is the basis for any successful marital relationship. The owner of the religion and the good manners is a basic condition in marriage , and the choice according to the religion and manners does not prevent them from meeting with money or beauty and other things. It is also advised to marry a man from a virgin woman who has never been married as well as a man, and marriage must be from a woman who Keep friendly The ten, and the partner must be chosen for his other partner, which is characterized by the preponderance of the mind and away from idiocy and foolishness, and it is advisable to marry the marriage, that is, there is no kinship between the spouses as possible, in order to avoid the transmission of genetic diseases.
  • Shortening the engagement period: Because its length may increase problems and the parties feel bored.
  • Observing the customs and traditions of society: it is the commitment of the suitors in their relationship with the norms of their community, even after the marriage contract .
  • Avoid proliferating orders and requests: by addressing suitors unnecessary unnecessary requests when dealing with each other.
  • Avoid raising one side's voice over the other: especially while speaking or discussing something, and they must address each other with the most beloved words and words they have, and refrain from using each word or word that the other hates.

Tips for the man

It is important to know the man’s duties towards his wife before entering the nest of marriage, and there are tips that he must take into consideration that help him succeed in his marital life, and the importance of the psychological man’s willingness to assume new marital responsibilities and start his joint life with his wife is not hidden, here are some tips that help him That: [4]
  • Avoid miserliness: If a woman sees miser from her husband or fiancé, she hates it and wants to get rid of it.
  • Avoid expressing admiration for another woman: It is the failure of the man to mention his admiration in front of his wife or fiancée to another woman, because this is a sin and disobedience, as it raises doubts about his wife and her change, which causes many problems.
  • Respecting the people of Al- Khattabah and getting close to them: by cohabiting with them and ensuring that familiarity and love persist between them.

Advice for women

Women advise many advice before marriage, which are: [5]
  • Early preparation for marriage, buying necessities, avoiding unnecessary things or luxuries, and making sure to choose the necessary things and priorities, and it can be written on a sheet of paper to make it easier to remember them later.
  • Preserving the fiancé's money and not wasting it, estimating his financial conditions and not asking him for things beyond his capacity.
  • The girl asked the things she needed from her suitor without being shy about him.
  • Dealing with the family of the suitor just like her family, and making sure to build a good relationship with them.
  • Learn cooking and various household matters, such as cleaning and more.
  • Psychological readiness to take responsibility for marriage and remember that a girl’s life in her family’s home differs from that in a married woman’s home .
  • Thanks to the suitor when he brings a gift or something, compliment him and not underestimate his taste.